Do you ever say one thing then act in a way that contradicts it? “I’m always up at 7am and eat a super healthy breakfast!” It’s a sure fire way to immediately lose faith in a person.
Often, this is because we like the idea of being a particular type of person. We take the credit without doing the work. Why would I work hard to achieve something when I can tell someone I do it, they can tell me how great I am and I still get the warm hug from my friend dopamine. That seems like working efficiently.
This is the same reason why people put up pictures of their brunch, over emphasise how great their nights out are and attach a “How’s your Monday going?” with their beach snaps. The “fake it ’til you make it” ethos of popular culture has popularised fake experience.
I choose a lazy person to do a hard job because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it – Bill Gates
When people find out the truth (which they will) they lose faith in you. Your brain is smart too, it knows when you’re not living true to your word. Essentially, you’re building a skyscraper on weak foundations and over time, as more weight is added the weak foundation will collapse, causing your skyscraper to crumble.
Either start raising the standard of commitment to your actions or stop trying to fool others with your words. These are lies and no-one likes a liar never-mind realising they themselves are one. This also isn’t about stagnation, this is about being a person of action, backing up your bullshit.
This is about doing what you say you will do and holding others accountable for this too.